I am collecting some reading material which has some parallels in our family. Research. Support seeking. Maybe a bit of straw grasping. Our youngest son, now 23 years old, was long ago diagnosed with severe OCD, ADD, and Tourette’s. It reads as Asperger’s, but labels aren’t helpful. He’s a bright, sensitive, funny person, odd as all get out, and we love him. He is still at home, without much desire or know how of how to get on with his own life out from under our shelter. I worry that we have made it worse as we have been so busy just keeping life rolling, that we haven’t had time to do more than nudge him in the right directions. Frankly, although I’m sincerely searching for solutions, I am likely to reject easy answers.
One of those easy answers was medication, or at least too much medication, which masked high anxiety symptoms and made life easier for teachers and family, but in fact, prevented him from developing the coping skills for daily life. Now, by his own decision, he has discontinued medication and is working out issues such as how to turn off his brain and combat insomnia by establishing routines and doing better self talk. I’m horrified, but at the same time, I’m glad that he is happier, more himself, and beginning to find ways to cope with his differences.
My questions are where does he go from here, and how does a young adult find the willpower to restart a life that has been in a holding pattern for too long?